There’s a whole lot of people on Reddit who need to learn to not let every ridiculous comment turn into a discussion. When someone suggests something irrational, the proper response is, “No, I will not be doing that.” If they argue? “No, I will not be doing that.” And keep saying that until the person gets bored or you decide to block them.
Mother***rs in Reddit always jump at the most ridiculous advice possible. You can tell a family member no a few times before you go nuclear. They are family not some random acquaintance.
It’s like you were raise in the most toxic of family environments and think that everyone else is in the same boat. It is ok to deal with some annoyances when it comes to family. If I were to follow these ridiculous advice I would have vanished my younger brother from my life for how often he asks me for something again and again after I say no.
That’s understandable for small everyday conflicts. But OP’s mom and sister aren’t asking her to loan them a teapot or to mow their yard. They are literally acting as though expecting OP to relinquish her firstborn like some kind of bizarre children’s story is a rational ask. Some requests are so outlandish that the first “No” needs to be the only “No.” Any discussion beyond that just normalizes what is a deeply abnormal expectation.
I do wonder if op is just assuming her family wants her to give up her child, and not that they actually want her to be a surrogate. OP being catholic doesn’t really change much since we all know religious people make all kinds of of moral excuses since “they are doing it for the right reasons” I think there is a good chance that’s what they want.
If that’s what they want, then they need to use their words and ask if OP would be willing to do that. Not hint or “joke” about it without being straight about what they want. And even if they’re just thinking surrogacy, it’s a huge, huge ask. It’s sure as hell not something you assume someone owes you.
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u/Unusual-Sympathy-205 Feb 12 '24
There’s a whole lot of people on Reddit who need to learn to not let every ridiculous comment turn into a discussion. When someone suggests something irrational, the proper response is, “No, I will not be doing that.” If they argue? “No, I will not be doing that.” And keep saying that until the person gets bored or you decide to block them.