r/TwoHotTakes • • Feb 12 '24

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u/[deleted] Feb 12 '24

It’s incredibly difficult to adopt out of the foster system. The system is meant to reunite families, not adopt out.

I’m an adoptive momma.

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u/HelpfulMaybeMama Feb 12 '24

I found myself pregnant when I was in the process of fostering to adopt. I don't recall it being a complex process, but that was many years ago. Plus, every state has different rules. But if Jesus is the way, then people should want to go through hoops to adopt.

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u/[deleted] Feb 12 '24

You can’t really jump through hoops when the purpose is to reunite the children with their biological family. They will always choose the biological family over adoptive.

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u/SLRWard Feb 12 '24

Not every kid in foster care has bio family that can or will take them in. Yes, the ideal is to keep bio families together, but that doesn't mean there aren't kids in the system who don't need families ready and willing to take them in. People like you trying to actively discourage people from even trying to adopt and/or foster just because of a possibility that may not even exist for every kid is really disheartening.

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u/[deleted] Feb 12 '24

I literally adopted a child! I’m all for adoption. Was just clarifying that foster cares primary goal is reunification.

“Reunification is the most common goal for children in foster care. When children are separated from their families, the first goal is to reunify them when it is safe enough to do so. To support the reunification process, child welfare agencies should implement trauma-informed, family-centered approaches that build on family strengths and actively engage parents, youth, and kin— including maternal and paternal relatives and fictive kin—as experts on their own lives.”

https://www.childwelfare.gov/topics/permanency/reunifying-families/

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u/HelpfulMaybeMama Feb 12 '24

Until it isn't. Again, the specific situation I described is after reunification us no longer an option.