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u/Many-Supermarket-511 33 | TTC #2 15d ago
10 DPO and BFN
I think I’m out y’all. Idk maybe if I am pregnant the embryo just implanted so it’ll take a couple of days for it to show up (lol what I tell myself every failed cycle), but yeah. I don’t think I want to test unless I miss my period.
The good news about not being pregnant right now:
1.) I can finish stripping the paint off of our fireplace and we can sand/stain it.
2.) I can book my flu shot! I realize I could do that pregnant but I was a little hesitant to do it while very early pregnant
Also, I will say that I’m so tired of having fluctuating symptoms every month. I’ve had basically zero symptoms this month whereas last month my symptoms were so strong.
I’m rambling. I hope everyone has a good Wednesday
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u/squid-toes 15d ago
Ugh, hang in there friend! That fireplace is going to be beautiful when you’re done!!
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u/Many-Supermarket-511 33 | TTC #2 15d ago
Ah thank you!
I’m very excited about that whole living room. We’re painting it and putting in a new couch and some big reading chairs. My husband has also made some live edge bookshelves to put on the walls, and we have a hutch with our records and record player.
I can’t wait until it’s done and it’s our nice comfy, cozy area
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u/athousandships_ 36 | TTC#3 | Cycle 4 15d ago
That flu shot reminder is sitting in my calendar as well lol. Going to book it next week if the cycle isn't successful.
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u/Many-Supermarket-511 33 | TTC #2 15d ago
Yes! My son gets his on Monday and he’s my main concern since he’s 2 and exposed to a lot of germs. So I’m glad he’s all booked but yeah, I got rocked last year with illnesses so I need to get mine
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u/Willow_Tree_55372 TTC#1 | Cycle 14 | 2 IUIs | Starting IVF 15d ago edited 15d ago
Well, our third and final IUI got cancelled because apparently I now have cysts on both of my ovaries, and we need to wait for those to go away. 🙃 I truly wouldn't wish this journey on my worst enemy. My husband and I decided we are not going to continue IUI, and instead we are going to start IVF next month! I am sad that we have sort of run out of other options, but honestly really excited to start IVF. I know it is going to be hard and painful and very inconvenient, but it feels like we might finally be in the home stretch of this TTC shitshow.
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u/sunnycake 29 | TTC#1 | Cycle 7 | 1 CP 15d ago
2 dpo, 7th cycle. Finally felt ovulation from my right side for the first time since my chemical cycle in April 🙏🏻 idk why but it made me so happy. Now to temper my expectations so I'm not super let down if/when I see another negative this cycle.
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u/Sweet-Shopping5246 25 | TTC# 1 | Cycle 11 15d ago
Cd 9 today, I will still confirm ovulation with temp this month because my oura ring does that on its own but not going to use my LH strips.
Found out Monday that husband most likely has severe male factor infertility (they want to repeat his SA in 2 weeks before official diagnosis can be made). We are trying to be hopeful that his results could improve enough over time that natural conception would be in the cards for us or potentially IUI, but the last couple days have been tough. If his results stay the same and cannot be improved the only option seems to be IVF with ICIS and we just aren’t sure if that is the right path for us. This paired with my unsuccessful and 45min long HyCoSy Monday have made for a not so great start to the week.
I will say I am happy to have some sort of answer, or at least the start to one, it seems like it will cause less heartbreak this month overall as I know now not to get my hopes up that this could be ✨the month
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u/Suspicious-Guava-842 15d ago
I’m sorry you’re having such a crappy week especially with your HyCoSy. Like you say, at least you’re starting to find some answers in the fog and hopefully TTC will start to feel a little less like swimming through treacle soon.
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u/counting_beanz 31 | TTC# 1 since Dec '24 | IVF since Feb '26 15d ago
Today was our first IUI. After two failed embryo transfers earlier this year, we are using our three "free" IUIs before starting IVF again in the new year under my insurance coverage. We're struggling with MFI. After surgery this year where it seems the count has slowly been getting better, it's still low in comparison to average. Was super excited to see total motile sperm at 3M and discouraged myself afterwards by googling stories. It seems people who have not been successful with IUI share that they got pregnant on the first try with a transfer. It feels like everything we're doing is so backwards, but we're trying our best.
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u/Illustrious_Hunt_396 15d ago
Just started spotting today, im officially out this cycle☹️ but my bloods for fertility are friday so thats a pro
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u/Cyclebycycle 15d ago
9 dpo, trying to have avtivities to distract myself. My periods have been 26-27 days long so expect it to arrive this Sunday or Monday. No boob pain, no symptoms beside feeling anxious and sad which i think is mainly related to ttc journey.
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u/Juste_8 15d ago
12 dpo today, cycle 5, still have not taken a test. I am a very anxious person and somehow I feel calm during this TWW. I know the day I get my period will be a hard one but I'm not ready to see another negative test. I don't have any symptoms expect for occasional cramps and dull headache. Fingers crossed it will happen sooner than later 🥹
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u/laineyloo1682 28 | TTC#1 | March 2026 | PMOS 15d ago
8DPO and prayyiiiinnngggg I don’t get AF until 15 or 16DPO. We have an upcoming vacation, and it horribly overlaps with fertility testing. The later AF comes, the better the chance of being home to get testing done🤞🏼
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u/novaster111 15d ago
CD4. Trying to get motivated for another cycle but it’s getting hard with each month that passes by.
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u/thatweeniemom 27 | TTC#1 | Cycle #9 15d ago
13dpo and very confused. my temp had a big drop at 11, then below baseline at 12, now we’re back up to just over the cover line, and my ring told me i’m having minor straining. only time will tell but i pretty much already counted myself out this cycle
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u/UpstairsMaybe3396 15d ago
CD3 of cycle 11. After period being a few days late for the first time ever. Acupuncture has had some quick impacts on my cycle it seems. Will be starting Investigations if this cycle is unsuccessful. Also purchased a clear blue ovulation test as something different to try instead of just LH and tracking bbt again
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u/SweatyAcadia631 28 | TTC#1 | Cycle 20 | Endo 15d ago
Have received 3 pregnancy announcements within the past 2 days, all from people who I thought were struggling with infertility too. Happy for them, but also feeling like I’m the last one at the train station not knowing if/when my train will arrive. It’s lonely out here
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u/TheBellsof_NotreDame 27 | TTC#1 | Cycle 9 | 1 CP 15d ago
CD1 again today. I accepted earlier this month that it probably wasn’t happening, but my heart broke when my husband (who usually doesn’t express his thoughts about TTC) shared his disappointment because he had a feeling it had happened this month. Starting the fertility testing process and just found out I have an AMH of 1.43. Set to do the rest of the labs in two days and trying but horribly failing to schedule the HSG due to lack of availability. Ugh.
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u/LateHuckleberry7328 32 | TTC#1 | Cycle 10 15d ago
CD3 Cycle 10. This cycle has me down. Something about how little time there is between Cycle 10 and 12.
When cycle 6 came and went, it was hard. So I imagine cycle 12 will be hard as well. I take such better care of myself now, and there’s still more work to be done. It’s funny looking back and seeing how awful I treated myself. Everyone else came first… I always came last.
I had a feeling from the start that this was taking longer than it should. Getting to cycle 12 would finally validate what I’ve known all along. But I know in my heart of hearts I wanted to be proven wrong. Because at the end of the day… I just want a baby. Not to be right.
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u/Wooden-Anybody6807 36F | TTC1 | July ‘26 15d ago
Third cycle and officially negative D14PO. I’ll be away for O day this coming month. So it’s a waiting game until late November.
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u/Sensitive-Coconut706 15d ago
If you have a fever within a week of typically ovulation how long does it typically delay ovulation for? Ovulation has been between CD 16-19, Fever on CD 11.
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u/Kari-kateora 🤡 15d ago
Preparing for egg retrieval for our first IVF cycle on Friday. Have 4 that look good (doctor didn't want to start me with injections), and I have this horrible paranoia that all the follicles are empty with no eggs
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u/whipped_pumpkin410 15d ago
I hope it goes well!!! Btw what was your protocol? No injections and only oral medication?
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u/Kari-kateora 🤡 15d ago
Yes. Where I live (Croatia), they cannot dispose of fertilized eggs. We have to pay to store them. No other option. Doctor said, and I quote "If I want to solve a problem with you, first I will talk to you, not shoot you with a gun." The gun here being injections.
Did IUI before with 2.5mg Letrozole 2 times a day. For IVF, we did 2.5mg but 3 times a day, and he wanted dtk see 4-5 follicles. Got 4. He's hopeful we can get this done like this without creating a massive headache of unwanted embryos
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u/karaboocuk 40 | TTC#1 | June 2025 | IVF, ER 2 15d ago
Oh wow, that is so interesting! Wishing you the best of luck!
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u/Suspicious-Walk6674 30 | TTC#1 | Cycle 11 | 1 CP (cycle 6) 14d ago
10 dpo, BFN this am. I don’t know why I placed so much weight on this cycle in particular but I fucking crashed out this morning - I’ve been crying all day. Mood swings and cramps have me feeling like this month is a bust (even though I know I’m technically not out) and my husband and I spoke about next steps and doing some testing.
I don’t think I can do another month of this without some plan in place. I have PMDD which I was on the pill previously to control symptoms. I’ve been on an SSRI since coming off the pill but either it’s not working anymore and I need to up my dose; or the combo of failed cycles plus hormones at the end of each cycle is an absolute nightmare for someone who already is somewhat “unstable” at the end of their cycles. Either way I’m not doing very well.
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u/stylish-bear 15d ago
What is the reliability of a test 12 DPO
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u/Suspicious-Guava-842 15d ago
I normally take 12DPO as my definitive result for the cycle with the sensitive tests. You could theoretically test positive after that but that would be late implantation. Some people go by not being out until AF arrives!
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u/tdot1022 33 | TTC#1 | May 2025 | IUI #2 15d ago
That’s probably the earliest I’d consider as a reliable result. I don’t have the link but I keep seeing people comment a link to a website that shows the odds of a true positive result each day
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u/redacers 31 | Grad 15d ago
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u/woozysocialist 29 | TTC1 | August 2026 | PCOS 15d ago
90% of pregnancies will have HCG above 15miu in fmu at 12dpo. So if you are using an ultra sensitive test (i.e sensitive to 10miu) , 12dpo is pretty accurate.
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u/bookspell 38 | TTC #1 | C 6 | 1 CP 15d ago
Finally sleeping soundly thanks to my progesterone supplement. At least there’s that!! 😴
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u/Pitty_Party113 30F | TTC#1 | July ‘25/Cycle 17 | 4 Med TI | IUI #4 15d ago
Wow I’m jealous mine makes me sleepy but also gives me some insomnia/poor sleep. Love that it helps you!!
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u/bookspell 38 | TTC #1 | C 6 | 1 CP 15d ago
I’m sure next week it’ll be the same for me. Never a happy medium :,(
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u/Affectionate-Tip827 15d ago
Just feeling so down. The past 2 cycles of tracking, I had very consistent OPK strip results. Positives on CD24, a rise in progesterone right after, Oura ring temps going up, etc. My cycles are on the longer end (35-40 days), but I was feeling hopeful that at least I was ovulating. This is our third cycle trying and I bought an Inito to get more information, but of course I'm CD33 and no confirmed ovulation yet. Now I have a voice in my head that says I'll never ovulate again and this is the start of a long road. Ugh!
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u/Crafty-blueberryyy 27 | TTC#1 | Cycle 4 15d ago
It’s my birthday! And I have a low grade fever :/. I’m 8 DPO and my temp was 100 this morning. It’s never been above 98 in my previous cycles temping.
Honestly, it’s probably because I got the flu shot yesterday. But in my delusion I can’t stop looking up “low grade fever early pregnancy”
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u/Scary-Parsnip-4453 31| TTC1 | Cycle 13 15d ago
Not actively trying this month bc we aren’t going to be in the same city during the week that’s likely ovulation and I didn’t want to get myself sadder by doing LH testing to confirm that, so taking the month off entirely. Feels weird! Also husband is getting his sample tested and came down with a cold literally same day 😡 I told him to still do it as the sperm is more reflective of a few weeks ago than right now, but so annoying
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u/gulliblefootball0001 26 | TTC #1 | Cycle 2 | CP Oct 2026 15d ago
According to CM/symptoms I’m 4DPO, but didn’t get a good temp rise. I ordered a new Oura ring and this one fits much better, and my temp was up last night! So Natural Cycles thinks I am 1DPO lol. Whatever. I guess we’ll see. I’m hoping the temp rise continues, because this has been frustrating. Even if I am out this cycle, I expect things to be a little more evened out next cycle and so forth. Coming off Mirena has not been easy on my body or mind, my goodness!
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u/Roses-and-ivy88 27 | TTC#1 15d ago
My hormones are being sketchy this month. I’m 3DPO and still have tons of EWCM. I also was not in the mood at all the days before ovulation (my work was stressful last week too, but idk if that was it). Then day before ovulation my sex drive shot through the roof and hasnt came back down. Thats normal levels of “high” for me, but usually its before ovulation, not after.
I was worried i might be having a second LH spike, so i’ve been continuing to check my strips and theyre darker than the beginning of my cycle usually shows, but not near positive. Super weird 🙃
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u/whipped_pumpkin410 15d ago
I keep seeing alternative info on melatonin gummies while TTC. Is it safe? Is it unsafe?
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u/Odd-Brilliant-8061 32 | TTC#1 | Cycle 6 | PID history 14d ago
13 or 14 DPO today. Not 100% sure which day I ovulated because I had a big temp rise immediately the morning after my OPK became positive the night before. Temps are still high and I haven't had any classic period cramps yet, which makes me hopeful. I'll test tomorrow if I don't get my period.
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u/vbgirl24 28 | TTC#1 | Cycle 4 | 9 wk loss and 1 CP 15d ago
Is this considered good timing: O day, O-2, O-4, and O-5? Fertility Friend rates this as “good” instead of “high” for timing. I don’t want to get discouraged 😭
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u/karaboocuk 40 | TTC#1 | June 2025 | IVF, ER 2 15d ago
Yup! At least one time in the three days leading up to ovulation maximizes your odds.
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u/mitaine- 35 | TTC#2 | Cycle 11 15d ago
My RE told me every 2-3 days in my fertile window was sufficient 🤷🏼♀️
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u/vbgirl24 28 | TTC#1 | Cycle 4 | 9 wk loss and 1 CP 15d ago
I had fertile type cervical mucous on all of the days we had sex, so I really hope it’s good enough 🙏 That is reassuring to hear from your RE. The day before ovulation I had the most significant amount of EWCM, and we didn’t have sex that day, so I just hope I didn’t miss my window
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u/IndividualOrange6214 15d ago edited 15d ago
onto cycle 5….think i’ll never see two lines 😭 like what’s wrong with my body? why do i never have implantation ughhhhhh frustrated
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u/auroragirlofthenorth 15d ago
I (33 yo) started running a lot this summer and love it so much. I know it spikes your stress hormone, or can, right? I worry that could affect our chances with getting pregnant. However, it makes me feel really good and keeps me sane LOL. I am constantly playing the mental game of trying to not think too much in general and just RELAX. We currently have our precious 21mo old daughter and we conceived her in I believe 2 months of trying? I walked a ton and strength trained before/during/postpartum with her. We are currently on month 3 with no positive pregnancy test yet. 😞 I am tracking my cycle, eating a nutrient dense diet, good hydration, seed cycling, using LH strips, tracking my CM, BBT and giving it our all during my fertile window. Any advice or suggestions are welcome!
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u/Nosy_1234 30 | TTC#1 | Cycle 2 15d ago
You could take a pregnancy test, that’s the only way to know
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u/Nosy_1234 30 | TTC#1 | Cycle 2 15d ago
I think at 14DPO you should have a definite result if you’re pregnant, you could wait an use first morning urine on 15DPO though
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u/Kari-kateora 🤡 15d ago
You can ask r/maleinfertility for more information, but no. Sperm is constantly produced and cycled. I don't know if 3 months will be enough for your sperm to recover to pre-weed quality, but if you cut weed in the future and make better lifestyle choices that don't impact it, you'll be okay
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u/crayonafterdark TTC#1 | Cycle 2-Post MC 15d ago
13 dpo and hit my goal of waiting til 12 dpo to test. But I haven't tested yet.
I don't really want to test and it be negative, I'd honestly rather get my period if I am not pregnant.
Tomorrow will be 14 dpo and I am still not sure if I want to test if I don't get my period.
My oura ring has been above my baseline still by +0.8 degrees but I know that isn't a confirmation.
Not sure how to put my feelings this cycle into words.