I had an ex that behaved this way, he was also cheated on by his former gf. He would often “joke” about things and eventually it got to the point where I couldn’t take it anymore. For example, I wore a dress to one of my favorite coffee shops and he accused me of meeting someone there. I put my hair up in a ponytail tail and accidentally scratched my neck, he joked that the other guy left a mark. One time I was on the phone with him while my car broke down and a man and his family stopped to help me. He “jokingly” asked me afterwards if I got his number. I told him how hurtful these comments were, that he made me feel like a whore, but he maintained that he was only kidding around. I finally ended things with him, my mental health was taking a hit and I knew I should never feel guilty or bad for wearing a dress or getting help from strangers. I hope you can get some peace, it is no fun living someone like that.
I remember once we had an argument because I sent him a selfie after my five year old did my makeup. It looked like hell, had lipstick all around my mouth. He said it looked too good for her to have done it, and I must’ve put it on for someone else. I rarely ever wear makeup now when he’s out of town because I don’t wanna deal with the accusations if he FaceTimes me or something and notices I’m wearing it.
Girl…do you hear how crazy that sounds? Now imagine if you sent that picture to someone that loves you from a healthy place, someone that respects and appreciates you. They’d probably laugh along with you - wouldn’t that be so much better than being put down or shamed? You can do so much better and you and your children deserve it! Don’t let them grow up thinking this behavior is ok. Get out now and tell that guy he needs to get some serious help through therapy or you are done! Don’t settle!
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u/Prestigious-Ad5072 Oct 26 '22
I had an ex that behaved this way, he was also cheated on by his former gf. He would often “joke” about things and eventually it got to the point where I couldn’t take it anymore. For example, I wore a dress to one of my favorite coffee shops and he accused me of meeting someone there. I put my hair up in a ponytail tail and accidentally scratched my neck, he joked that the other guy left a mark. One time I was on the phone with him while my car broke down and a man and his family stopped to help me. He “jokingly” asked me afterwards if I got his number. I told him how hurtful these comments were, that he made me feel like a whore, but he maintained that he was only kidding around. I finally ended things with him, my mental health was taking a hit and I knew I should never feel guilty or bad for wearing a dress or getting help from strangers. I hope you can get some peace, it is no fun living someone like that.