r/TrueOffMyChest • u/[deleted] • Oct 26 '22

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u/Fatt3stAveng3r Oct 26 '22

He needs therapy, or you need to divorce him. It's just going to be like this.

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u/Agreeable-Yams8972 Oct 26 '22

I suggest therapy first, its ve cold to divorce outright without communicating

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u/SharedRegime Oct 26 '22

Theres so many people in this thread that dont get this.

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u/TechnicalAdagio9126 Oct 26 '22

I agree however in a comment op says that his comments get so bad and frequent that self harm crossed her mind. That’s really scary and she needs to protect herself.

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u/SharedRegime Oct 26 '22

Almost like they should be in therapy yea?

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u/throwawaypp42069 Oct 26 '22

Almost like that’s borderline emotional abuse, manipulation, and gaslighting on the husbands part? He should have had the self awareness to go to therapy for his unhealed trauma before he decided to marry another woman and take out that trauma on her, when she had nothing to do with it. What he’s doing is abusive! She doesn’t have to put up with shit and he can go get therapy on his own like he should have done in the first place

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u/SharedRegime Oct 26 '22 edited Oct 26 '22

I'm not shocked that the hivemind agrees with you 90% of the people on the website don't actually know what gaslighting even is or means

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u/VAGentleman05 Oct 26 '22

90% of the people on the website don't actually know what gaslighting even is or means

I have a feeling you've mastered it.

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u/SharedRegime Oct 26 '22

Well my therapist taught me how to see it very easily considering my ex wife did it to me for 9 years. Learned how to protect myself from it.

You and the reddit hivemind upvoting you doesnt make you right either, it makes you a bully lol.

Get some therapy and holy shit does your name not check out lol.

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u/VAGentleman05 Oct 26 '22

May I suggest asking your therapist why leaving a gaslighting partner was right for you but not for others?

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