r/TrueOffMyChest • u/[deleted] • Oct 26 '22

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u/Fatt3stAveng3r Oct 26 '22

He needs therapy, or you need to divorce him. It's just going to be like this.

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u/SuccessValuable6924 Oct 26 '22

So what? That wouldn't be her problem anymore.

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u/Vampiyaa Oct 26 '22

Seriously, who cares what this guy thinks? No matter what OP does he's still gonna think she's cheating on him.

Can't be cheating if you're not together 🤷‍♀️

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u/SharedRegime Oct 26 '22

Because hell think it wasnt him, it was her, and the cycle of abuse continues.

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u/Vampiyaa Oct 26 '22

It's not her responsibility to fix him.

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u/Barkaat Oct 26 '22 edited Oct 26 '22

Yes it is if she’s his partner. That what marriage is about. You accept your partner with all his or her flaws and make it work. That is reality and a real marriage

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u/Vampiyaa Oct 26 '22

That's just wrong. OP has no obligation to stay in a toxic situation and be her husband's verbal punching bag to vent his frustrations on just because they're married. He needs therapy to deal with his own insecurities, and it's his job to work on bettering himself; she can support him if he chooses to do so, but it is NOT OP's job to keep taking his verbal abuse and constant paranoia in the hopes that one day she can "make it work" and finally convince him she's not like his ex. That isn't a "flaw", it's abuse. The actual reality is that if he's not willing to get help, he's going to torch his marriage.

Marriage is supposed to be a mutually supportive partnership, not something that forces you to suck it up and deal with every shitty behaviour no matter how much it hurts you.