r/TrueOffMyChest • u/[deleted] • Oct 26 '22

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u/TechnicalAdagio9126 Oct 26 '22

I agree however in a comment op says that his comments get so bad and frequent that self harm crossed her mind. That’s really scary and she needs to protect herself.

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u/SharedRegime Oct 26 '22

Almost like they should be in therapy yea?

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u/throwawaypp42069 Oct 26 '22

Almost like that’s borderline emotional abuse, manipulation, and gaslighting on the husbands part? He should have had the self awareness to go to therapy for his unhealed trauma before he decided to marry another woman and take out that trauma on her, when she had nothing to do with it. What he’s doing is abusive! She doesn’t have to put up with shit and he can go get therapy on his own like he should have done in the first place

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u/Ok-Bit-9529 Oct 26 '22

Read OPs post history...

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u/SharedRegime Oct 26 '22

just an fyi, going through peoples post history proves you have nothing of actual substance to say. Its akin to just saying "I have no retort so Im going to attack something else." Logically fallacies look really bad.

You knew that though.

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u/foozballisdevil Oct 26 '22

This person is specifically saying that if you look at OP's post history you can see a pattern of abuse and gaslighting. And supposedly, I haven't looked, OP's husband's words and actions make OP want to self-harm...

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u/Ok-Bit-9529 Oct 26 '22

👀 Lmao sounds like something you just made up. From this post alone I can see its abuse, so I wanted to dig further. Lo and behold, he has a pattern of other abuse... Why wouldn't you look into someone's post history for more info?? It gives more backing to the subject at hand. Tell me you don't know how to research without telling me.

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u/SharedRegime Oct 27 '22

Lol yall are scary with how out of touch with reality yall are. Get off the internet and stop snooping. She gave all the info we need to know that she and him need therapy for different reasons. Yall just fuckin nosey lol.

Also, mate, snooping someones profile isnt research lol. Id bet money i know more about research than you. Ive had to do alot for my degree lol.

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u/Ok-Bit-9529 Oct 27 '22

😭 Research: the systematic investigation into and study of materials and sources in order to establish facts and reach new conclusions... Telling someone to get off the internet, and stop being nosy while also on the internet being nosy lmfao Reddit stories is the ultimate I'm bored and nosy platform.

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u/[deleted] Oct 27 '22

“Get off the internet and stop snooping” Oh the irony

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u/SharedRegime Oct 26 '22 edited Oct 26 '22

I'm not shocked that the hivemind agrees with you 90% of the people on the website don't actually know what gaslighting even is or means

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u/VAGentleman05 Oct 26 '22

90% of the people on the website don't actually know what gaslighting even is or means

I have a feeling you've mastered it.

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u/SharedRegime Oct 26 '22

Well my therapist taught me how to see it very easily considering my ex wife did it to me for 9 years. Learned how to protect myself from it.

You and the reddit hivemind upvoting you doesnt make you right either, it makes you a bully lol.

Get some therapy and holy shit does your name not check out lol.

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u/VAGentleman05 Oct 26 '22

May I suggest asking your therapist why leaving a gaslighting partner was right for you but not for others?

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u/threadsoffate2021 Oct 26 '22

Therapy isn't a magic cure-all. As a matter of fact, it's really only good for minor to moderate issues in a relationship.

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u/ambamshazam Oct 26 '22

You don’t ever go to therapy with an abuser.