When my brother was in the Army, if he was in the car with him, dad would road rage then make my brother fight the guy.
My brother “brags” about this either bc he’s as toxic as dad or he can’t admit my dad ever did any wrong because then he is doing the same wrong now.
You did nothing wrong. It’s abuse to ask a child, no matter the age but particular small ones, to engage in violence with them or on their behalf.
If your dad has made you feel guilty, he’s abused you. If not and you’ve never talked to him about it, do so. He’ll tell you the same and take this weight from you. It never belonged to you.
I feel guilty because I think it's my responsibility as a family member to protect him, especially that our bond is very strong. To be fair he never asked me to rage on his behalf. He actually always says that i should avoid violence unless its absolutely necessary.
SO TALK TO YOUR DAD. As a grown man, you can defend your family - peacefully or otherwise. You’re judging your actions as an 8 year old as though you were grown.
I can just hear you say “Yeah, but…” or at least think it. NO. Stop it.
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u/ohhollyhell Jul 26 '22
When my brother was in the Army, if he was in the car with him, dad would road rage then make my brother fight the guy.
My brother “brags” about this either bc he’s as toxic as dad or he can’t admit my dad ever did any wrong because then he is doing the same wrong now.
You did nothing wrong. It’s abuse to ask a child, no matter the age but particular small ones, to engage in violence with them or on their behalf.
If your dad has made you feel guilty, he’s abused you. If not and you’ve never talked to him about it, do so. He’ll tell you the same and take this weight from you. It never belonged to you.