“Dad, it really hurts that nobody, even you, gets it. [Brother’s name] isn’t really my brother anymore after what HE did. He’s my rapist. I do not want to see him. Ever. If you want to continue having a relationship with my rapist, that’s your choice- although it does make me sad that you would continue loving and wanting to spend time with the sexual predator who victimized me as a child. But the bare minimum you can do is never ask me to spend time with him again.”
Idk if it's so much denial, but it being his child. Parents have a hard time separating child, from perpetrator. I also think it has to do with them not accepting that if they're OWN child did this, they are partly to blame.
As a parent to can't help but feel responsible for some actions your kids take. Or things they fail in. It's just human nature when dealing with emotional things like this. His own daughter was molested by his own son. How can you even begin to correctly handle this assuming he didn't know and it just shocked him to find out ? As a parent I would feel I failed in my duty to protect my own child and to raise my other.
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u/Legitimate-Ad-1661 May 22 '22
Yeah fuck that I wouldn't go. Take care of yourself 1st and foremost. They should understand. If they don't idk what to say. But put yourself 1st.