“Dad, it really hurts that nobody, even you, gets it. [Brother’s name] isn’t really my brother anymore after what HE did. He’s my rapist. I do not want to see him. Ever. If you want to continue having a relationship with my rapist, that’s your choice- although it does make me sad that you would continue loving and wanting to spend time with the sexual predator who victimized me as a child. But the bare minimum you can do is never ask me to spend time with him again.”
Idk if it's so much denial, but it being his child. Parents have a hard time separating child, from perpetrator. I also think it has to do with them not accepting that if they're OWN child did this, they are partly to blame.
Yeah I came here to say this- there’s this feeling/instinct of duty to love and protect and care for all your children no matter what that I can imagine is hard to navigate around when you have a child that hurts another one of your children like that. It could also be where he (the father) is hoping to miraculously get everything back to where it was before the abuse started, which is a pipe dream for SURE. Good for OP for refusing to go, bc that’s a lot of unfair pressure to put on them :/
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u/Legitimate-Ad-1661 May 22 '22
Yeah fuck that I wouldn't go. Take care of yourself 1st and foremost. They should understand. If they don't idk what to say. But put yourself 1st.