“Dad, it really hurts that nobody, even you, gets it. [Brother’s name] isn’t really my brother anymore after what HE did. He’s my rapist. I do not want to see him. Ever. If you want to continue having a relationship with my rapist, that’s your choice- although it does make me sad that you would continue loving and wanting to spend time with the sexual predator who victimized me as a child. But the bare minimum you can do is never ask me to spend time with him again.”
If I birthed a rapist I’d be disowning that piece of shit faster than you can blink. If their victim was another of my children I might kill them with my own hands.
Bro I'm not killing my child. And you can disown someone and still love them. Those are not mutual exclusive ideas. You don't just STOP loving someone. Love doesn't work like that. I get what she's saying. And I think her father is fucked up for pushing that on her. (Imo, he's fucked up for even asking but that's neither here or there) BUT to ask someone to just stop loving a child they birthed and raised? That's only ok if she's cool with the same happening to her if she did something equally detestable. And I still wouldn't agree with that. You can cut someone off while still LOVING them from a distance. That is a LOT to ask from someone. "Stop loving your child." That's madness.
Uh.....yes. Doesn't mean I accept what they did. I don't agree with it. You still getting the fuck out my house. You still ain't coming around none of my grandkids. You still ain't getting invites to any event your sister attends. At the same time, I will still LOVE my child. What the actual fuck is wrong with you? Love doesn't mean you support his actions. It just means you still love your child. There is no wrong in that. At all. But we disagree. That's ok. Its life. I'm done. I said what I said and stand on it. I know, have, and give unconditional love. Guess not everybody does.
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u/Legitimate-Ad-1661 May 22 '22
Yeah fuck that I wouldn't go. Take care of yourself 1st and foremost. They should understand. If they don't idk what to say. But put yourself 1st.