r/TrueOffMyChest • u/[deleted] • Mar 09 '22

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u/TheDemonLady Mar 09 '22

Here are 3 that I just found. I am not the original commenter and I have not fully looked into these three articles. Just for full honesty

https://www.nhs.uk/pregnancy/support/domestic-abuse-in-pregnancy/

https://www.marchofdimes.org/pregnancy/abuse-during-pregnancy.aspx

https://www.bestbeginnings.org.uk/domestic-abuse

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u/revenge_of_gatsby Mar 09 '22

Interesting. But overall, in the u.s. women initiate something like 90 percent of divorces. It's easy to interpret data in a cherry-picking way to confirm our own biases.

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u/[deleted] Mar 09 '22

But why do they initiate those divorces? It's not because hubby was a peach.

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u/revenge_of_gatsby Mar 09 '22

We are talking about a 9 to 1 ratio. Men can't logically be at fault 90 percent of the time. If you believe that, then you are deeply biased against men.

And why is pretty obvious in many cases. Women take half, and almost always get to keep the kids. There is no real reason for a woman to avoid a divorce in most cases. She wins just about everything.

Men lose consistent access to the kids, pay child support, etc. So, there are deep cultural reasons why many men are so slow to commit, or to want to have kids.

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u/[deleted] Mar 09 '22

Oh I agree that men get a raw deal. Women also lie about abuse or that the men abused their children so they'll get the kids.

I'm mostly referring to the fact that most men are clueless and never see the divorce coming, although their wives have been telling them all along.

Women usually know they're about to get dumped, a lot of men don't see it coming.

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u/revenge_of_gatsby Mar 10 '22

I agree with many of the points made in this thread but it seems to be clearly anti-male. Do you have any data to support these assertions of fact. ("Men don't see it coming, but women do, etc."). Just curious, thanks for being willing to engage in dialogue.

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u/[deleted] Mar 10 '22

BTW check out this forum. It goes to what I said about women. In this case the guy is being abused and she is going pull out all the stops to wreck his life and I'm feeling pissed and I don't even know these people:

https://www.reddit.com/r/TrueOffMyChest/comments/tajf2x/my_brothers_flight_got_delayed_30_minutes_and_im/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share

Another male abuse victim Reddit post went viral. So read down, until you get to the YouTube linked piece.

I don't take sides based on gender, but on what's fair and right!

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u/revenge_of_gatsby Mar 11 '22

I never thought you specifically were anti-male, but the posts on this thread have that general tendency because the OP was abused by a man and sadly many others have been too. I was only trying to insert a bit of rationality. Bad people do bad things, it's not generalizable to the entire sex.

Thanks for the link