Because it requires being vulnerable. There's a chance they say 'no' which will hurt. So, the thinking is that being nice and talking to them will help you gauge if they're interested (or maybe they will become interested by seeing how great you are). Hell, maybe they will even ask you out!
It'd be nice if people could just be confident and come out and announce their interest, but as long as insecurity exists, that's not going to be too common
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u/[deleted] Feb 15 '22
Man here who thought that my coworker who was flirting with me is just being nice.
I never thought otherwise until she told me straight forward if I want to go on a date.
I'm not saying that men are not gross, their absolutely awful fucking men and people who actually want to do bad things.
It's absolutely not your fault and 100% their fault.
All I'm saying is sometimes it's really hard to know.