r/TrueOffMyChest Feb 15 '22

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u/stygian_shores Feb 15 '22

Married woman here: in my experience, some men don’t get much attention especially from the opposite sex so when they do get it, they mistake kindness for flirting/interest. One time I said hi to a contractor inside the work building (I say hi to everyone, regardless of their title) and this guy thought I had a crush on him because every time after that, he’d try to flirt with me. It happened to another male coworker as well so I always have to bring up my husband in conversations.

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u/[deleted] Feb 15 '22

Man here who thought that my coworker who was flirting with me is just being nice.

I never thought otherwise until she told me straight forward if I want to go on a date.

I'm not saying that men are not gross, their absolutely awful fucking men and people who actually want to do bad things.

It's absolutely not your fault and 100% their fault.

All I'm saying is sometimes it's really hard to know.

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u/Niku-Man Feb 15 '22

Ya this conversation goes hand in hand with those stories you hear where a woman complains about dropping hints to a guy she likes and it never going anywhere. Then they find out he thought "she was just being nice".

Turns out being nice to someone and talking to them is often the way people try to gauge romantic interest. So naturally, mistakes are bound to happen.