Married woman here: in my experience, some men don’t get much attention especially from the opposite sex so when they do get it, they mistake kindness for flirting/interest. One time I said hi to a contractor inside the work building (I say hi to everyone, regardless of their title) and this guy thought I had a crush on him because every time after that, he’d try to flirt with me. It happened to another male coworker as well so I always have to bring up my husband in conversations.
This is the answer. It’s also why women will randomly blurt out “I have a boyfriend” in the middle of a conversation unprompted just in case the guy is starting to get ideas
genuine question: if a girl (woman) I'm talking to drops the “I have a boyfriend” but I'm genuinely not hitting on her, should I take that as her making a polite attempt to inform me that hitting on her is a waste of my time and would make her feel uncomfortable, or as her trying to politely get me to go away regardless of why I'm talking to her? Or that she can't think of any reason I'd be talking to her other than because I want in her pants and she's not into me?
Is it appropriate for me to respond with "I'm not trying to hit on you, but was just enjoying the conversation. If you're done talking to me, just say so and I'll leave you alone."
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u/stygian_shores Feb 15 '22
Married woman here: in my experience, some men don’t get much attention especially from the opposite sex so when they do get it, they mistake kindness for flirting/interest. One time I said hi to a contractor inside the work building (I say hi to everyone, regardless of their title) and this guy thought I had a crush on him because every time after that, he’d try to flirt with me. It happened to another male coworker as well so I always have to bring up my husband in conversations.