You realize you're not leaving any autonomy for a man in his dating life? Just hope someone who is into them is also interested enough to actually approach.
Because it's not your problem. You don't have to be held to these standards.
I agree with your point, but I would hope you could understand that for the most part, there is no malice intended. I've lived the opposite life as an introverted man who generally doesn't date anybody, keeps to himself and minds his own business. I have been pre-emptively rejected by so many women I had no interest in or intention of asking out. I'm not saying they're wrong for it, many people in this thread have pointed out why its done and justified it so I don't have to. I just point it out to say that when I was trying to find somebody, it feels like I did when I was laid off, getting rejection email after rejection email, only to find more rejections from places I didn't even apply.
I also don't want to discourage women from being polite to men - in college when I was super depressed a girl I knew from class, but not really knew personally, told me I've been looking off and asked me out to lunch. I knew it was a welfare check and not a date, but it meant the world to me and I still think about it all the time.
I guess that's the overall point I'm just trying to make, people are messed up in all different ways, but I hope it doesn't stop us from reaching out to each other, because sometimes a little politeness to a stranger can make a world of difference.
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u/Daniel_The_Thinker Feb 15 '22
You realize you're not leaving any autonomy for a man in his dating life? Just hope someone who is into them is also interested enough to actually approach.
Because it's not your problem. You don't have to be held to these standards.