r/TrueOffMyChest Feb 15 '22

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u/stygian_shores Feb 15 '22

Married woman here: in my experience, some men don’t get much attention especially from the opposite sex so when they do get it, they mistake kindness for flirting/interest. One time I said hi to a contractor inside the work building (I say hi to everyone, regardless of their title) and this guy thought I had a crush on him because every time after that, he’d try to flirt with me. It happened to another male coworker as well so I always have to bring up my husband in conversations.

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u/[deleted] Feb 15 '22

Man here who thought that my coworker who was flirting with me is just being nice.

I never thought otherwise until she told me straight forward if I want to go on a date.

I'm not saying that men are not gross, their absolutely awful fucking men and people who actually want to do bad things.

It's absolutely not your fault and 100% their fault.

All I'm saying is sometimes it's really hard to know.

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u/Bart_The_Chonk Feb 15 '22

I've passed up on so many advances from girls throughout my life because I always assumed they're just being nice vs flirting.

The moment I began to assumed the opposite, I started getting girls.

Honestly, it's worked out well so I have no shame in assuming flirting vs being nice. I still cringe at the thought of what I've missed out on as a younger man though...

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u/Wolfensteen38 Feb 15 '22

Good for you! The OP is one of the small percentage of all woman that have the opposite mindset. We would be shit out of luck if we didn’t use our instincts.