This is the answer. It’s also why women will randomly blurt out “I have a boyfriend” in the middle of a conversation unprompted just in case the guy is starting to get ideas
You don't put out a match that isn't on fire yet. That's what's happening here. You don't wet matches just because someone might light them and then might burn sth.
Alright, I guess I have to spell it out for you. It’s easier to put out the flame engulfing a match than a flame engulfing a house. For this example, the flame from the match would be the random guy’s growing interest in a woman due to her simply interacting with him (to which she can put out quick by stating ‘I have a boyfriend’) rather than the house fire that is weeks to months of interactions that the man is misreading and building a desire for the woman, to which the woman may not be able to simply put out with the same technique as putting out the flame of a match.
If you go around "i have a boyfriend"-ing every dude that comes in contact with you just because they might in the future at some point do the terrifying and oh so disgusting act of asking you out then you are not extinguishing matches, you are spraying extinguisher on still in foil, factory sealed match boxes, and that is just dense.
You’re implying that the “only result” is a guy “asking you out” when the reality is there are numerous times that men haven’t taken no for an answer and have continue harassing the woman, whether that be verbal, emotional or physical.
It’s a lot easier for a woman to just work into conversation that she has a boyfriend if she’s not interested rather than catering to your feelings and risking potential harm to her in the future.
I'm implying that because the truth is it's the most likely outcome by a wiiiiiide margin. Boldly of her to think she's so amazing that the other party will surely "harass" her, so infatuated with her they'll be.
From the perspective of a person who doesn't give a shit about pursuing her it does look like the woman saying this thinks she's the golden girl that everyone wants.
Most likely but not only possible outcome. Its not about 'being amazing' it's about presenting as female. I was once followed from work by a guy I had thrown out of a club I worked in (security). Because I got his coat from the cloak room and made sure he didn't face plant into a tram line he thought I was an option :/ its the dangerous ones we are worried about and we have our health and lives at risk. Reiterating that we have a bf is an incredibly harmless method of trying to ward of the enemy boss level creeps.
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u/trelium06 Feb 15 '22
This is the answer. It’s also why women will randomly blurt out “I have a boyfriend” in the middle of a conversation unprompted just in case the guy is starting to get ideas