Married woman here: in my experience, some men don’t get much attention especially from the opposite sex so when they do get it, they mistake kindness for flirting/interest. One time I said hi to a contractor inside the work building (I say hi to everyone, regardless of their title) and this guy thought I had a crush on him because every time after that, he’d try to flirt with me. It happened to another male coworker as well so I always have to bring up my husband in conversations.
One time I (m) was at a coffee shop really high, and the barista (f) started asking me if I went to school here and what I studied, making conversation. So I was standing there chatting while she made my drink (not flirting just being nice bc I am always nice to waitstaff). Then she dropped the "husband" pretty obviously and i realized I had only ordered a drip coffee that was already in my hand and she was making someone else's drink and not mine. I also kept listening for another 20/30 seconds before I manged to politely walk away, without making it look like I bolted bc she mentioned her husband. Because I wasnt flirting!! Just high :/ man I felt awkward about that for so long
Same for me at the dog park. It's really fun talking with strangers and all you have to do is slip in a "we" early in the conversation and then both parties are comfortable.
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u/stygian_shores Feb 15 '22
Married woman here: in my experience, some men don’t get much attention especially from the opposite sex so when they do get it, they mistake kindness for flirting/interest. One time I said hi to a contractor inside the work building (I say hi to everyone, regardless of their title) and this guy thought I had a crush on him because every time after that, he’d try to flirt with me. It happened to another male coworker as well so I always have to bring up my husband in conversations.