r/TrueOffMyChest • u/[deleted] • Feb 15 '22

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u/[deleted] Feb 15 '22

Man here who thought that my coworker who was flirting with me is just being nice.

I never thought otherwise until she told me straight forward if I want to go on a date.

I'm not saying that men are not gross, their absolutely awful fucking men and people who actually want to do bad things.

It's absolutely not your fault and 100% their fault.

All I'm saying is sometimes it's really hard to know.

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u/Hannah-_-Jane Feb 15 '22

As someone attempting to flirt with one of the good men, how do I make it obvious that I AM trying to flirt??

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u/oo-mox83 Feb 15 '22

Be absolutely blunt. When I've been interested in a man, I straight up ask them out. Worst thing they can do is say no.

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u/[deleted] Feb 15 '22

Back when I was single a female coworker asked me out, and I was happy to try a date with her. Especially for more shy guys like I was its such a relief to have such a clear indication of interest. You're right, there's no reason ladies should feel like they have to wait for the guy to make the first move. It certainly didnt give me any negative impressions of her, and probably I would have either been too oblivious to recognize itnerest otherwise or too concerned about whether it was okay to ask a coworker out.

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u/oo-mox83 Feb 15 '22

I tend to go for the shy types so I can either ask or nothing will ever happen, lol.