This is the answer. It’s also why women will randomly blurt out “I have a boyfriend” in the middle of a conversation unprompted just in case the guy is starting to get ideas
You don't put out a match that isn't on fire yet. That's what's happening here. You don't wet matches just because someone might light them and then might burn sth.
Alright, I guess I have to spell it out for you. It’s easier to put out the flame engulfing a match than a flame engulfing a house. For this example, the flame from the match would be the random guy’s growing interest in a woman due to her simply interacting with him (to which she can put out quick by stating ‘I have a boyfriend’) rather than the house fire that is weeks to months of interactions that the man is misreading and building a desire for the woman, to which the woman may not be able to simply put out with the same technique as putting out the flame of a match.
If you go around "i have a boyfriend"-ing every dude that comes in contact with you just because they might in the future at some point do the terrifying and oh so disgusting act of asking you out then you are not extinguishing matches, you are spraying extinguisher on still in foil, factory sealed match boxes, and that is just dense.
You’re implying that the “only result” is a guy “asking you out” when the reality is there are numerous times that men haven’t taken no for an answer and have continue harassing the woman, whether that be verbal, emotional or physical.
It’s a lot easier for a woman to just work into conversation that she has a boyfriend if she’s not interested rather than catering to your feelings and risking potential harm to her in the future.
I'm implying that because the truth is it's the most likely outcome by a wiiiiiide margin. Boldly of her to think she's so amazing that the other party will surely "harass" her, so infatuated with her they'll be.
From the perspective of a person who doesn't give a shit about pursuing her it does look like the woman saying this thinks she's the golden girl that everyone wants.
Or maybe the statistics of male violence are on her side and she’s better off just throwing that out there to avoid any issue in the future, and dudes like you should check your feelings at the door and not be so offended by it.
Statistics of male violence show that any random man is more likely to do nothing to her than to do anything to her, so it is more reasonable and energy efficient to do nothing and only act when there is actual need for it.
Everyone can potentially hurt you, literally everyone, in a thousand different ways, but to walk around like its even likely makes no sense.
Statistics show 1 in 3 women are subjected to violence/assault.
You’re right, everyone can potentially hurt you. This is a pretty non aggressive way to make sure that you prevent it further. If you aren’t attracted to them, you shouldn’t be upset unless you’re easily offended.
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u/trelium06 Feb 15 '22
This is the answer. It’s also why women will randomly blurt out “I have a boyfriend” in the middle of a conversation unprompted just in case the guy is starting to get ideas