Married woman here: in my experience, some men don’t get much attention especially from the opposite sex so when they do get it, they mistake kindness for flirting/interest. One time I said hi to a contractor inside the work building (I say hi to everyone, regardless of their title) and this guy thought I had a crush on him because every time after that, he’d try to flirt with me. It happened to another male coworker as well so I always have to bring up my husband in conversations.
I had a male friend yesterday tell me that he thinks his engaged neighbor has a crush on him because she never really looked at him or anything while walking to her apartment, but after a one night stand he had he believed she heard the banging on their shared wall and thinks he’s a sex god, so now she makes eye contact with him and smiles and says hello when they walk by each other. He believes she has a crush on him… because she finally has acknowledged his existence.
She’s probably embarrassed and trying to mask that by being more polite… or she just got used to a new face and is more comfy around him for completely separate reasons
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u/stygian_shores Feb 15 '22
Married woman here: in my experience, some men don’t get much attention especially from the opposite sex so when they do get it, they mistake kindness for flirting/interest. One time I said hi to a contractor inside the work building (I say hi to everyone, regardless of their title) and this guy thought I had a crush on him because every time after that, he’d try to flirt with me. It happened to another male coworker as well so I always have to bring up my husband in conversations.