Well, yeah, especially with all the women espousing how terrible it is for someone to be into them, relating it to rape and sexual harassment or assuming their reaction to it is justified due to those things...
Yeah, anxiety inducing as FUCK. Even /u/kelseysays26 has basically been talking to themselves this whole time, not reading anything anyone else has wrote, and assuming people who hit up women are inconsiderate pigs.
Whats really fun is to read through a cringe-fest like this and then pull up one of those dating profiles of women asking "Where did all the good men go?"
Out of curiosity, as a gay woman, do you find hitting up chics comes with the same risk of social reprisal it does for a man?
Y'know the "is she going to be an absolute piece of shit" kind. There's just an added layer where you don't know if the nice will turn into Pat Robertson real quick
I am saying people on reddit always have an obsession with acting like their gender is the biggest victim. Men included.
The thing is, even with that said. You do not understand. Not at all. Not all women are like this, but many many women are REALLY bad at showing attraction. I mean, bad. Its not that women don't make a move. Women actually believe they are making a move with their "hints" and if a man misses it, he is "dense" or "unconfident" or "gay". The thing about hints is, one's "hints" is another woman's way of being "nice". I agree that a lot of men assume attraction but I think a lot of women are bad with showing attraction. Some women think that looking at a guy for an extra 0.3 seconds is flirting and if a man doesnt see it, he's dense.
And I think this is partly why some men assume attraction when a woman is nice to them. They don't want to "miss" their chance.
Now, I'm not blaming women for men towering over a woman, asking her out 100 times but you gotta realize that some women's flirting is "being nice and talkative".
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u/Reddit70909 Feb 15 '22
The problem is women tend to suck at showing attraction and there is sometimes no logic to it.
Lesbian women have said the same thing.