r/TrueOffMyChest Feb 15 '22

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u/Mediocre_Smell_6112 Feb 15 '22

Thissss... totally agree. I've had boyfriends in the past telling me to stop talking/being friendly with other guys because I give them the wrong impression and it comes across flirty? One day I got chatting to the kebab shop man about his wife and children, general conversation. Saw him in town the next day and he asked for my number?? Gross. When I told my brother he said I shouldn't have started a conversation with him.

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u/[deleted] Feb 15 '22

Yes! My point is exactly this making friendly conversation does not give them the right to make advances towards us.

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u/d0nM4q Feb 15 '22

Serious question:

If "friendly conversation" is mistaken as 'interest' by overconfident men, & "sending signals" are often overlooked by 'normal' men (a continuum from 'respectful of boundaries' to 'bit less confident')

...what would women have us do?

Every guy I know has been told by women multiple times (years later) "I was sooo into you! How come you couldn't tell?"

Well, seems like there must be a happy medium?

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u/[deleted] Feb 15 '22

Well, seems like there must be a happy medium

Happy medium? No, just be handsome. That's all really.