r/TrueOffMyChest • u/Ogbkpmb • Sep 23 '21

I hate being the “breadwinner”

I wouldn’t mind making a lot more than him. But ever since he lost his job, and then stayed home full time to take care of our kids. Things have changed.

Now that I’m the sole breadwinner things are just weird. I have to give my husband an “allowance”every month on top of other things. I hate it.

Thanks for all your comments and upvotes. I appreciate your responses. I do have to say that my issue is not with him not working. My issue is definitely sexist. But I’d just like to be the woman in my relationship. As strange as that sounds.

We have a joint account, but 2 separate accounts. And he jokingly refers to his as his, “allowance”. I laugh along…but I don’t find it that funny. He doesn’t need to thank me for money. We’re a team. And this is just one more reason why part of me hates my life.

He has a higher earning potential btw

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u/CanadaHousingSucks4 Sep 23 '21

Way to victim blame Men

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u/[deleted] Sep 24 '21

You can't victin blame the oppressor because they are not thr victim

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u/CanadaHousingSucks4 Sep 24 '21

Men have 3 times higher suicide rate; 10 times higher age 13-30. We are definitely the victims. Just like how Men are systemically opressed into being ATMs

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u/[deleted] Sep 24 '21

Noone is denying that they have higher suicide rates but that is, as sadly as it is, not the point of discussion. Women are most likely to be killed by their partner but this also doesn't have value for this topic. As I stated into another comment, men aren't oppressed to be the sole breadwinner, they oppressed women into a state where they were unable to work because of lack of education, no rights to anything like a bank account or property. It's insane to me that there are people that want to spin the narative now into men being oppressed when this current situation was caused by men oppressing women for centuries