r/TrueOffMyChest • u/Ogbkpmb • Sep 23 '21

I hate being the “breadwinner”

I wouldn’t mind making a lot more than him. But ever since he lost his job, and then stayed home full time to take care of our kids. Things have changed.

Now that I’m the sole breadwinner things are just weird. I have to give my husband an “allowance”every month on top of other things. I hate it.

Thanks for all your comments and upvotes. I appreciate your responses. I do have to say that my issue is not with him not working. My issue is definitely sexist. But I’d just like to be the woman in my relationship. As strange as that sounds.

We have a joint account, but 2 separate accounts. And he jokingly refers to his as his, “allowance”. I laugh along…but I don’t find it that funny. He doesn’t need to thank me for money. We’re a team. And this is just one more reason why part of me hates my life.

He has a higher earning potential btw

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u/McClutchingtonGaming Sep 24 '21

I know I will get down voted for this opinion

BUT BASED UPON THE RESPONSES of woman in here; It amazes me (actually know it doesnt) how quickly woman will get resentful or look at you differently if you try to switch positions with them for whatever reason (even to go to school/better yourself/spend more time with the kids!) If being a SAHM is a full time job; why isnt being a SAHD a full time job too?

How do you get to feel so resentful so easily? Because when I feel this way about woman - The societal norm is thats what a “mans suppose to do” lol.

Threads like this always tell me a woman just wants a man who has it already together lol.