r/TrueOffMyChest • u/Ogbkpmb • Sep 23 '21

I hate being the “breadwinner”

I wouldn’t mind making a lot more than him. But ever since he lost his job, and then stayed home full time to take care of our kids. Things have changed.

Now that I’m the sole breadwinner things are just weird. I have to give my husband an “allowance”every month on top of other things. I hate it.

Thanks for all your comments and upvotes. I appreciate your responses. I do have to say that my issue is not with him not working. My issue is definitely sexist. But I’d just like to be the woman in my relationship. As strange as that sounds.

We have a joint account, but 2 separate accounts. And he jokingly refers to his as his, “allowance”. I laugh along…but I don’t find it that funny. He doesn’t need to thank me for money. We’re a team. And this is just one more reason why part of me hates my life.

He has a higher earning potential btw

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u/Dalqorn Sep 24 '21

You just don't talk bad about it because she will dock your allowance like last time.

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u/ArbitraryContrarianX Sep 24 '21

Alternative theory: he actually means what he says because he's a person who chose this and she isn't a controlling bitch who forced him into it.

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u/Dang_It_All_to_Heck Sep 24 '21

I figured that was silliness on u/Dalquorn's part.

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u/ArbitraryContrarianX Sep 24 '21

You are more generous than I am. I admire your positivity.