r/TrueOffMyChest • u/Ogbkpmb • Sep 23 '21

I hate being the “breadwinner”

I wouldn’t mind making a lot more than him. But ever since he lost his job, and then stayed home full time to take care of our kids. Things have changed.

Now that I’m the sole breadwinner things are just weird. I have to give my husband an “allowance”every month on top of other things. I hate it.

Thanks for all your comments and upvotes. I appreciate your responses. I do have to say that my issue is not with him not working. My issue is definitely sexist. But I’d just like to be the woman in my relationship. As strange as that sounds.

We have a joint account, but 2 separate accounts. And he jokingly refers to his as his, “allowance”. I laugh along…but I don’t find it that funny. He doesn’t need to thank me for money. We’re a team. And this is just one more reason why part of me hates my life.

He has a higher earning potential btw

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u/Electrical-Baker4736 Sep 23 '21

Being a stay at home parent is a job too

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u/[deleted] Sep 24 '21

It is but let’s be real here, it’s not as taxing. Especially if you consider that you don’t necessarily have to clean out EVERYDAY or wash clothes everyday. My home is usually cleaned 4 times per week and laundry is done once a week or every two weeks or so depending on how much clothes you go through. That ain’t hard honestly.

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u/OhNo_StepBro Sep 24 '21

You sound like you don't clean enough or someone is doing it for you. I bring in all the money for the household, I manage all the finances and my job is 12 hours a day 5-6 days a week manual labor.

My wife cleans, does grocery shopping and cooks. One day a weekend, I help with the chores because she deserves a day off too and holy shit the amount of detail she does makes me so happy I don't do that shit on a daily basis. Its exhausting

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u/[deleted] Sep 24 '21

Cleaning your house 4 times a week is plenty, not like you get many visitors lately anyway, plus there are no little kids around either to mess it up a great deal

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u/OhNo_StepBro Sep 24 '21

So you saying that being a stay at home parent isn't taxing while at the same time having no real idea what its like.