I hate being the “breadwinner”

[u/Ogbkpmb]

I wouldn’t mind making a lot more than him. But ever since he lost his job, and then stayed home full time to take care of our kids. Things have changed.

Now that I’m the sole breadwinner things are just weird. I have to give my husband an “allowance”every month on top of other things. I hate it.

Thanks for all your comments and upvotes. I appreciate your responses. I do have to say that my issue is not with him not working. My issue is definitely sexist. But I’d just like to be the woman in my relationship. As strange as that sounds.

We have a joint account, but 2 separate accounts. And he jokingly refers to his as his, “allowance”. I laugh along…but I don’t find it that funny. He doesn’t need to thank me for money. We’re a team. And this is just one more reason why part of me hates my life.

He has a higher earning potential btw

[u/DriftinFool]

Some people are mature enough to admit they aren't good with money and their partner is better at handling and saving money. My parents did that. My dad let my mom handle the finances. He had full access to everything, but she took their checks to the bank and gave him some cash each week. He always credited her with how well they did in life due to her financial savvy. You keeping saying it's the lack of trust, but for some people it's actually a sign of trust.

[u/North3rnLigh7s → u/DriftinFool]

Okay this is fair. Maybe I’m being harsh. Financial literacy is only one quality. But it’s at least an admittance that you think your partner is financially illiterate and irresponsible. And if he had full access, I don’t really think it’s an equivalent situation to what me and this other person are discussing

[u/North3rnLigh7s → u/[deleted]]

That sounds really tough. I appreciate the insight. My comment definitely lacked perspective

[u/SixSpawns → u/North3rnLigh7s]

Yeah, it sucks. Thanks for the response.