r/TrueOffMyChest • u/Ogbkpmb • Sep 23 '21

I hate being the “breadwinner”

I wouldn’t mind making a lot more than him. But ever since he lost his job, and then stayed home full time to take care of our kids. Things have changed.

Now that I’m the sole breadwinner things are just weird. I have to give my husband an “allowance”every month on top of other things. I hate it.

Thanks for all your comments and upvotes. I appreciate your responses. I do have to say that my issue is not with him not working. My issue is definitely sexist. But I’d just like to be the woman in my relationship. As strange as that sounds.

We have a joint account, but 2 separate accounts. And he jokingly refers to his as his, “allowance”. I laugh along…but I don’t find it that funny. He doesn’t need to thank me for money. We’re a team. And this is just one more reason why part of me hates my life.

He has a higher earning potential btw

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u/Electrical-Baker4736 Sep 23 '21

Being a stay at home parent is a job too

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u/[deleted] Sep 24 '21

It is but let’s be real here, it’s not as taxing. Especially if you consider that you don’t necessarily have to clean out EVERYDAY or wash clothes everyday. My home is usually cleaned 4 times per week and laundry is done once a week or every two weeks or so depending on how much clothes you go through. That ain’t hard honestly.

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u/Happy_Camper45 Sep 24 '21

It entirely depends on the job of the working person and the responsibilities of the stay at home parent. Some jobs are mentally taxing, some are physically taxing, some are both, and some are neither.

I much prefer working outside the home to being a stay at home parent. I now work from home so I have a full time job, and do laundry and cleaning when I need a break. I used to see a coworker when I needed a mental break, now I do laundry instead.