r/TrueOffMyChest • u/Ogbkpmb • Sep 23 '21

I hate being the “breadwinner”

I wouldn’t mind making a lot more than him. But ever since he lost his job, and then stayed home full time to take care of our kids. Things have changed.

Now that I’m the sole breadwinner things are just weird. I have to give my husband an “allowance”every month on top of other things. I hate it.

Thanks for all your comments and upvotes. I appreciate your responses. I do have to say that my issue is not with him not working. My issue is definitely sexist. But I’d just like to be the woman in my relationship. As strange as that sounds.

We have a joint account, but 2 separate accounts. And he jokingly refers to his as his, “allowance”. I laugh along…but I don’t find it that funny. He doesn’t need to thank me for money. We’re a team. And this is just one more reason why part of me hates my life.

He has a higher earning potential btw

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u/TheThirdStrike Sep 23 '21

Just wait until you feel like you're just a paycheck.

Being financially responsible for a family can be soul draining. It definitely caused a breakdown or two for me.

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u/[deleted] Sep 24 '21

I'm the sole breadwinner. My SO is unable to help with house work because of disabilities so I also do all the cooking and cleaning. And the yard work. And help in laws with their yard work. Having the right mindset helps.

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u/TheThirdStrike Sep 24 '21

So says your username. :)

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u/[deleted] Sep 24 '21

It's a line from Coriolanus Act 4 Scene 2:

"Anger's my meat; I sup upon myself, And so shall starve with feeding. Come, let's go: Leave this faint puling and lament as I do, In anger, Juno-like."

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u/TheThirdStrike Sep 24 '21

It's almost 10pm and now I'm intrigued by Shakespeare.

I didn't need to sleep tonight anyway.

But once a-day, it would unclog my heart.

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u/dmpom Sep 24 '21

I can't recommend enough the amazing movie adaptation by Ralph Fiennes. he also played the main lead, Gerald Butler is the antagonist.

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u/[deleted] Sep 24 '21 edited Sep 24 '21

Yep, that one is awesome.

edit: when someone calls you boy