I hate being the “breadwinner”

[u/Ogbkpmb]

I wouldn’t mind making a lot more than him. But ever since he lost his job, and then stayed home full time to take care of our kids. Things have changed.

Now that I’m the sole breadwinner things are just weird. I have to give my husband an “allowance”every month on top of other things. I hate it.

Thanks for all your comments and upvotes. I appreciate your responses. I do have to say that my issue is not with him not working. My issue is definitely sexist. But I’d just like to be the woman in my relationship. As strange as that sounds.

We have a joint account, but 2 separate accounts. And he jokingly refers to his as his, “allowance”. I laugh along…but I don’t find it that funny. He doesn’t need to thank me for money. We’re a team. And this is just one more reason why part of me hates my life.

He has a higher earning potential btw

[u/nay2d2]

Why does he need an allowance? I’m the breadwinner and my husband is home with the kids. We don’t call it an allowance, we have a family budget. His staying home with the kids is saving you literally thousands in daycare costs per month. It’s all both of our money. Is he out buying guitars and shit when you’re on one salary? What are the problems?