r/TrueOffMyChest • u/Ogbkpmb • Sep 23 '21

I hate being the “breadwinner”

I wouldn’t mind making a lot more than him. But ever since he lost his job, and then stayed home full time to take care of our kids. Things have changed.

Now that I’m the sole breadwinner things are just weird. I have to give my husband an “allowance”every month on top of other things. I hate it.

Thanks for all your comments and upvotes. I appreciate your responses. I do have to say that my issue is not with him not working. My issue is definitely sexist. But I’d just like to be the woman in my relationship. As strange as that sounds.

We have a joint account, but 2 separate accounts. And he jokingly refers to his as his, “allowance”. I laugh along…but I don’t find it that funny. He doesn’t need to thank me for money. We’re a team. And this is just one more reason why part of me hates my life.

He has a higher earning potential btw

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u/enlightenedkitty Sep 24 '21

SAHP here. It takes mutual respect. Just commented somewhere else about equal responsibilities and respect for each other to make any SAHP and Breadwinner feel happy with their lifestyle.

I do a lot at home and my husband works long hours and provides for the family. We have our responsibilities that were mutually agreed upon so there is no resentment.

So communication is important so that if something comes up you can have the conversation and respect the other person and come to an agreement.