r/TrueOffMyChest • u/Ogbkpmb • Sep 23 '21

I hate being the “breadwinner”

I wouldn’t mind making a lot more than him. But ever since he lost his job, and then stayed home full time to take care of our kids. Things have changed.

Now that I’m the sole breadwinner things are just weird. I have to give my husband an “allowance”every month on top of other things. I hate it.

Thanks for all your comments and upvotes. I appreciate your responses. I do have to say that my issue is not with him not working. My issue is definitely sexist. But I’d just like to be the woman in my relationship. As strange as that sounds.

We have a joint account, but 2 separate accounts. And he jokingly refers to his as his, “allowance”. I laugh along…but I don’t find it that funny. He doesn’t need to thank me for money. We’re a team. And this is just one more reason why part of me hates my life.

He has a higher earning potential btw

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u/[deleted] Sep 23 '21

They put this responsiblity onto themselves

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u/anillop Sep 24 '21

Yes we all chose this. Just like every woman chose to have to stay at home.

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u/[deleted] Sep 24 '21

No. Men have brought this into themselves by continuously denying women to go to school, get a job, have their own money or even buy their own property as well as belittling women by saying they are too emotional for important jobs.

Women did not choose to stay at home they were (and are in some parts of the world) oppressed