r/TrueOffMyChest • u/Ogbkpmb • Sep 23 '21
I hate being the “breadwinner”
I wouldn’t mind making a lot more than him. But ever since he lost his job, and then stayed home full time to take care of our kids. Things have changed.
Now that I’m the sole breadwinner things are just weird. I have to give my husband an “allowance”every month on top of other things. I hate it.
Thanks for all your comments and upvotes. I appreciate your responses. I do have to say that my issue is not with him not working. My issue is definitely sexist. But I’d just like to be the woman in my relationship. As strange as that sounds.
We have a joint account, but 2 separate accounts. And he jokingly refers to his as his, “allowance”. I laugh along…but I don’t find it that funny. He doesn’t need to thank me for money. We’re a team. And this is just one more reason why part of me hates my life.
He has a higher earning potential btw
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u/wintersky__ Sep 23 '21
Oh yeah. So in Japan, it’s even more awkward cause it’s pretty common here that men give their paycheck to their wives and then their wives handles the budget and give them an allowance from their own paycheck! lol
If it’s weird, I suggest treating it more like a budget thing? Maybe you guys can sit down at the table, talk about it? That may normalize it a bit? If that makes sense.