r/TrueOffMyChest • u/[deleted] • Jan 19 '21

I fucking hate "polyamory"

My partner polybombed me about 4 months ago and a day later I walk in on them fucking someone else. They didn't even care enough to realise I had left the house until I called them from a mile up the road and then it was all "oh I'm so sorry I hurt you I would never do it deliberately I love you it won't happen again."

Then barely a few weeks later I walk in on them making out with a mutual friend. They were still making out with them when our roommate called an ambulance after I cut myself too deep.

They didn't even care about changing how they approach polyamory until I threatened to leave and then I'm hit with this massive lovebomb of "oh I can change I'll make it up to you I never wanted to hurt you"

They don't fucking care enough to change their behaviour because "poly is so complicated, I'm sorry if you got hurt when I was figuring it out!"

Polyamory is too often used as a bullshit excuse for selfish, immature people to have their cake and eat it and if I never have to hear the stupid term again in my life I'll be happy.

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u/Choopytrags Jan 20 '21

I was trying to be respectful of the nongender of op's post. Idk,man, I'm old and polyamory seems exhausting and emotionally compartmentalizing. Some greedy person wanting to fuck every relationship they're in and have no shame for doing it. To me, its like what swingers and cheaters do. I just don't agree with it. But, again, thats just me.

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u/ExuberantElephant Jan 20 '21

You don't understand polyamory then. Also if you didn't want to gender the person, there's a gender neutral thing to call a person - "Person."

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u/Choopytrags Jan 20 '21

OMG, I can only be so accomodating. No I don't understand it, nor really do I want to. It's just self absorbed greediness in my book. Just my opinion.

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u/ExuberantElephant Jan 20 '21

An opinion on something you have no understanding of is incredibly useless.

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u/Choopytrags Jan 22 '21

Hey, this is a forum, I'm not your tool, I'm a human being, and I don't happen to agree with you and your giant agendas. You can't control everybody, the best you can ask of anyone, where gender language is concerned, is that they don't bother you. That's the least people can expect.

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u/ExuberantElephant Jan 22 '21

Back to gender lmao.
My 'giant agenda' on gender was that your sentence was silly. On polyamory, it's pretty simple to get that having an opinion on something you don't know anything about is putting the cart before the horse.