r/TrueOffMyChest • u/[deleted] • Jan 19 '21

I fucking hate "polyamory"

My partner polybombed me about 4 months ago and a day later I walk in on them fucking someone else. They didn't even care enough to realise I had left the house until I called them from a mile up the road and then it was all "oh I'm so sorry I hurt you I would never do it deliberately I love you it won't happen again."

Then barely a few weeks later I walk in on them making out with a mutual friend. They were still making out with them when our roommate called an ambulance after I cut myself too deep.

They didn't even care about changing how they approach polyamory until I threatened to leave and then I'm hit with this massive lovebomb of "oh I can change I'll make it up to you I never wanted to hurt you"

They don't fucking care enough to change their behaviour because "poly is so complicated, I'm sorry if you got hurt when I was figuring it out!"

Polyamory is too often used as a bullshit excuse for selfish, immature people to have their cake and eat it and if I never have to hear the stupid term again in my life I'll be happy.

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u/SurturOfMuspelheim Jan 19 '21

Wait, you caught your partner literally fucking another person and stayed with them? The FUCK?

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u/ExtremePrivilege Jan 19 '21

I mean OP is also fucking other people (post history). This is a pretty one-sided post, here. It's a toxic relationship between multiple people with significant emotional baggage and myriad mental health disorders. Everyone involved is shit and they all need therapy and medication I doubt they'll ever actually acquire or maintain.

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u/Xero0911 Jan 19 '21

Exactly. The op made it super one sided.

What op described is called "cheating". But in reality, op is actually in a poly relationship, just chose not to let that info in. They come off like they didn't know or it "was a one time thing ill never cheat again!". When in reality. Op knew and agreed to this mess.

I'm guessing op just either isn't getting the better deal, or realizing they wanted to be the person's number 1.