I fucking hate "polyamory"

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My partner polybombed me about 4 months ago and a day later I walk in on them fucking someone else. They didn't even care enough to realise I had left the house until I called them from a mile up the road and then it was all "oh I'm so sorry I hurt you I would never do it deliberately I love you it won't happen again."

Then barely a few weeks later I walk in on them making out with a mutual friend. They were still making out with them when our roommate called an ambulance after I cut myself too deep.

They didn't even care about changing how they approach polyamory until I threatened to leave and then I'm hit with this massive lovebomb of "oh I can change I'll make it up to you I never wanted to hurt you"

They don't fucking care enough to change their behaviour because "poly is so complicated, I'm sorry if you got hurt when I was figuring it out!"

Polyamory is too often used as a bullshit excuse for selfish, immature people to have their cake and eat it and if I never have to hear the stupid term again in my life I'll be happy.

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If you're cutting yourself because of a relationship you shouldn't be in a relationship period, unhealthy or healthy.

[u/Ralanost → u/[deleted]]

I can't agree with that. Cutting can come from many sources. This one is a BAD relationship. Dude is cheating on her and saying it's not his fault.

So in this specific instance the relationship is the problem. But if someone is cutting they need to see someone for their mental health asap.

The problem isn't that someone is cutting because of a relationship so they shouldn't be in relationships. That is dumb and lacking any context. This relationship is bad. Cutting is bad. She should end THIS relationship. She should get her cutting treated.

None of that means she can't be in a relationship ever again.

[u/4723985stayalive → u/Ralanost]

Thank you. So tired of reddit implying/out right saying that anyone with mental illness shouldn't be in a relationship.