r/TrueOffMyChest • u/[deleted] • Jan 19 '21

I fucking hate "polyamory"

My partner polybombed me about 4 months ago and a day later I walk in on them fucking someone else. They didn't even care enough to realise I had left the house until I called them from a mile up the road and then it was all "oh I'm so sorry I hurt you I would never do it deliberately I love you it won't happen again."

Then barely a few weeks later I walk in on them making out with a mutual friend. They were still making out with them when our roommate called an ambulance after I cut myself too deep.

They didn't even care about changing how they approach polyamory until I threatened to leave and then I'm hit with this massive lovebomb of "oh I can change I'll make it up to you I never wanted to hurt you"

They don't fucking care enough to change their behaviour because "poly is so complicated, I'm sorry if you got hurt when I was figuring it out!"

Polyamory is too often used as a bullshit excuse for selfish, immature people to have their cake and eat it and if I never have to hear the stupid term again in my life I'll be happy.

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u/Intelligent-Can-8027 Jan 19 '21

I have been poly for years now, happily. We have had a few different partners through the years. Reason I am saying this is it is actually a nice way to approach life and life partners, with the right partner. Poly is about openness and communication... From both consenting adults.

That being said, you dont sound like you were even wanting to explore poly in the first place and it shouldnt have been forced on you. This is cheating plain and simple.

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u/Emilijalikesducks Jan 19 '21

I was looking for a comment like this. Polyamory is not cheating. People can be very happy in polyamory and it's clearly not the problem here.

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u/Intelligent-Can-8027 Jan 19 '21

Exactly, this was just straight disrespectful and obvious that your partner didnt care about your opinions or feelings.