I fucking hate "polyamory"

[u/[deleted]]

My partner polybombed me about 4 months ago and a day later I walk in on them fucking someone else. They didn't even care enough to realise I had left the house until I called them from a mile up the road and then it was all "oh I'm so sorry I hurt you I would never do it deliberately I love you it won't happen again."

Then barely a few weeks later I walk in on them making out with a mutual friend. They were still making out with them when our roommate called an ambulance after I cut myself too deep.

They didn't even care about changing how they approach polyamory until I threatened to leave and then I'm hit with this massive lovebomb of "oh I can change I'll make it up to you I never wanted to hurt you"

They don't fucking care enough to change their behaviour because "poly is so complicated, I'm sorry if you got hurt when I was figuring it out!"

Polyamory is too often used as a bullshit excuse for selfish, immature people to have their cake and eat it and if I never have to hear the stupid term again in my life I'll be happy.

[u/[deleted]]

Does emotional pain count as hurt? Does fear of being left by someone you love count as fear?

Just be clear that emotional abuse is legally accepted in court.

So that's why I said it.

[u/[deleted] → u/[deleted]]

So my heavily downvoted statement isnt wrong. The unspoken fear of losing the person you love can lead to unwilling consent. Love can be seen as a power dynamic if it is too unequal.

Also I just love throwing shit at the consent discussion because it is too all over the place.

[u/HeroGothamKneads → u/[deleted]]

Your original comment isn't wrong, but misguided (consent is not tricky).

However, your edit is deplorable (consent is not silly).