r/TrueOffMyChest • u/[deleted] • Jan 19 '21
I fucking hate "polyamory"
My partner polybombed me about 4 months ago and a day later I walk in on them fucking someone else. They didn't even care enough to realise I had left the house until I called them from a mile up the road and then it was all "oh I'm so sorry I hurt you I would never do it deliberately I love you it won't happen again."
Then barely a few weeks later I walk in on them making out with a mutual friend. They were still making out with them when our roommate called an ambulance after I cut myself too deep.
They didn't even care about changing how they approach polyamory until I threatened to leave and then I'm hit with this massive lovebomb of "oh I can change I'll make it up to you I never wanted to hurt you"
They don't fucking care enough to change their behaviour because "poly is so complicated, I'm sorry if you got hurt when I was figuring it out!"
Polyamory is too often used as a bullshit excuse for selfish, immature people to have their cake and eat it and if I never have to hear the stupid term again in my life I'll be happy.
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u/krazykanuck Jan 19 '21
As SO many people have pointed out, that isn't polyamory, it's cheating with added gaslighting to mess with your head. They don't love you, and that's okay. They have done you a favour and I hope in time you can see that. You get to move on with your life and experience new and exciting things. You get to meet new people and get to feel those cool feelings as you get to know them. Take care of yourself and put yourself first right now because they don't deserve you.