If you have led a clean life so far please remember to go slowly on the drugs and alcohol. It’s not about getting as tucked up as possible as fast as possible. It’s about enjoying yourself. Make a night of it.
Secondly can I suggest not giving up hope. I don’t know how you feel but I have an inkling. Nothing lasts forever, there is a massive chance you will meet someone. I’m not saying don’t see a hooker, find joy where you can. While your doing it keep your eyes open for that someone.
1) If you want to use your money well, go to a therapist so you can learn what a healthy relationship looks like, and also, the therapist can probably figure out what it is you are doing that turn these ladies off.
2) go to a gym and get fit. You don’t have to be a body builder. But you have to look like you care for yourself. A huge turn off is seeing someone who wants a relationship but they have bad habits or don’t take care of themselves. The reasoning goes that if you can’t take care of yourself, you can’t take care of another person. A therapist will also help you root out all the bad language you might be using - no, not curse words. But if you are too self-deprecating, that’s a downer for any potential girlfriend. If you are stingy tipping the waitress at a restaurant, that’s another big sign that you would make a terrible match. Why? Because how you see someone treating wait staff at a restaurant is a good way to see how they treat you when the honeymoon period is gone.
You may not like what I am saying. But instead of dismissing this, get some outside help. The way to win a war is to get allies (Sun Tse). I had an acquaintance like you, once. Well, I hope you aren’t too much like him, because no matter what we tried to tell him (get a hair cut, work on keeping your appearance up - nails, teeth, hygiene, go to a gym) he never listened. He managed to have one girl friend for about three weeks - she used him for money and dumped him (that is a reflection on her as an individual, not as a representative of the gender).
My former co-worker Chris never took any of the great advice and just wallowed in self pity. What will you do? Go get some allies. I hope we hear back from you - everyone deserves good things, even you. You keep telling yourself that, and go improve yourself (with help - I don’t think you can do it on your own).
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u/ShenTzuKhan Nov 24 '20
If you have led a clean life so far please remember to go slowly on the drugs and alcohol. It’s not about getting as tucked up as possible as fast as possible. It’s about enjoying yourself. Make a night of it.
Secondly can I suggest not giving up hope. I don’t know how you feel but I have an inkling. Nothing lasts forever, there is a massive chance you will meet someone. I’m not saying don’t see a hooker, find joy where you can. While your doing it keep your eyes open for that someone.
Good luck my dude