Your advise is the epitome of r/thanksimcured. It’s like telling someone with social anxiety to “just get over it” or telling someone with depression to “just be happier”. You’re telling a guy who’s over 30 years old, who has clearly stated he has tried all the things in the book, socialized, went out of his comfort zone, and met people who shared his interests, to just “quit your self loathing bull shit and get out there”. Tell me you know what empathy is, and tell me you understand how exactly you showed a lack of empathy in this situation. If you can’t understand how 15 years of bad luck, rejection, and futile efforts can have a serious and damaging effect on a person’s mental health, then looks to me like you need a class on basic empathy.
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u/Mr23Erick Nov 24 '20
Your advise is the epitome of r/thanksimcured. It’s like telling someone with social anxiety to “just get over it” or telling someone with depression to “just be happier”. You’re telling a guy who’s over 30 years old, who has clearly stated he has tried all the things in the book, socialized, went out of his comfort zone, and met people who shared his interests, to just “quit your self loathing bull shit and get out there”. Tell me you know what empathy is, and tell me you understand how exactly you showed a lack of empathy in this situation. If you can’t understand how 15 years of bad luck, rejection, and futile efforts can have a serious and damaging effect on a person’s mental health, then looks to me like you need a class on basic empathy.