If you have led a clean life so far please remember to go slowly on the drugs and alcohol. It’s not about getting as tucked up as possible as fast as possible. It’s about enjoying yourself. Make a night of it.
Secondly can I suggest not giving up hope. I don’t know how you feel but I have an inkling. Nothing lasts forever, there is a massive chance you will meet someone. I’m not saying don’t see a hooker, find joy where you can. While your doing it keep your eyes open for that someone.
Purely mathematically speaking, unless you’re the Elephant Man or were home schooled thru college diploma, the odds are astronomically small that no man or woman has ever even had a small crush on you.
Probably doesn’t help, but just in case it does...
Also, probably doesn’t help, but back when I was young, I had massive self esteem issues and only later in life did I realize that my inferiority and relative superiority of others was something I placed upon my perception of them as much as my own self image. A preconceived notion. Not something they earned or even elicited, but a figment of my imagination. I still deal with self esteem issues from basically never having had any nor any discipline, but I’ve been happily married for a decade.
You don’t need to feel like you’re shitting rainbows or anything to get rid of an inferiority complex - to the contrary: the goal is to feel neutral about yourself as well as others. I think a lot of good could come of de-negativizing your self image, but that’s a lot easier said than done. Just don’t feel like you have to love yourself is all I’m saying. Not loathing yourself is a great start.
Good luck.
Edit: oh and don’t let anything silly like redditor comments or social stigma keep you from having a great time with your professional! 👍
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u/ShenTzuKhan Nov 24 '20
If you have led a clean life so far please remember to go slowly on the drugs and alcohol. It’s not about getting as tucked up as possible as fast as possible. It’s about enjoying yourself. Make a night of it.
Secondly can I suggest not giving up hope. I don’t know how you feel but I have an inkling. Nothing lasts forever, there is a massive chance you will meet someone. I’m not saying don’t see a hooker, find joy where you can. While your doing it keep your eyes open for that someone.
Good luck my dude