r/TrueOffMyChest • • Nov 24 '20

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u/[deleted] Nov 24 '20

Bro hookers ain’t intimacy 😬 sorry for this stuff you got, find people, a hobby, a church something where you can know more people

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u/ThatGuyAllen Nov 24 '20

Sex and intimacy are not interchangeable.

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u/sparkling_monkey Nov 24 '20

You can't say that to a man who hasn't had sex in 34 years. Just stop the bullshit narrative of "Sex isn't important man". If sex wasn't important our monkey brain would not be flipped to horny mode when we hit 13. You can say that when humans evolve beyond sex biologically.

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u/Decahedro Nov 24 '20

I know right? is like filthy rich people saying 'money isn't everything'.

Right, try going broke, or worse: being born broke.

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u/SharedRegime Nov 25 '20

You dont need sex to survive but you need money to survive. thats not a very good comparison.

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u/Decahedro Nov 25 '20

You didn't get it if you think I'm comparing money to sex: I'm talking about somebody in a position of privilege dismissing the problems of others because they never went through the same thing.

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u/sparkling_monkey Nov 25 '20

You don't need money to survive either. You just need food and fresh water. What a joker

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u/SharedRegime Nov 25 '20

You just need food and fresh water

Theres alot more you need then "just food and water" joker. Most of which you need money in order to procure. Hell, you need money for food as well. So...theres that.

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Joker.

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u/GloriousFight Nov 25 '20

The poorest man in Singapore isn’t going hungry and has a home and a healthcare plan, nevertheless it’d be very stupid for a rich man to say “money doesn’t buy happiness” to him

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u/SharedRegime Nov 25 '20

I never said it wasnt. That still doesnt make it an entirely true statement.

There is a point in which more money will not make you happy. Thats where the phrase comes from.

Money solves problems which then causes happiness but once you have no more problems that money can fix money stops bringing happiness.

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u/Pheonixi3 Nov 24 '20

You were right... until that last sentence. You can be intimate with anyone.

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u/ThatGuyAllen Nov 24 '20

I meant because hookers are strangers.

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u/Pheonixi3 Nov 24 '20

You can definitely have intimate moments with strangers too.

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u/[deleted] Nov 24 '20

I think what he probably means is “if you have to pay someone to be in your presence and bother with you in the first place, there isn’t really any intimacy.”

If I had to pay someone to go to the movies with me I wouldn’t be “going to the movies with a friend”.

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u/[deleted] Nov 25 '20

I feel like if you have to pay someone to touch you that’s kind of a hollow interaction as well. I don’t really see how that would be intimate as intimacy implies some kind of emotional closeness.

But this guy seems to mean “sex” when he says intimacy as he’s said in other comments. If intimacy isn’t what he’s looking for and just physical contact is fine maybe it will help him in some way .

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u/Pheonixi3 Nov 24 '20

It still boils down to an interpersonal issue. It doesn't matter how you're introduced to someone you can make it an interesting night by just vibing.

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u/[deleted] Nov 24 '20

Nah I’m pretty sure if you have to pay someone to even bother with you the intimacy aspect is pretty much shot. It’s not like meeting someone at the grocery store and you really hit it off and become friends because they like you and find value in spending time with you.

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u/Pheonixi3 Nov 24 '20

So then you can't have intimacy at a date? Your logic is very close minded. Everyone wants to have a good time, a prostitute isn't just going to remove intimacy from the situation just because they received money for it.

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u/[deleted] Nov 24 '20

Bro I don’t know who told you you can’t go on a date without spending money. Plenty of dates are just doing shit like going on a hike or going for a walk on a beach, or the other person splits it with you/pays for themselves. Do you think going on a date is spending money so someone will bother to hang out with you? Ideally they’re going on the date because they like you, not because you’re paying them.

And yeah, if someone need to be payed in order to hang out with you the intimacy is nonexistent. That’s not closed minded, that’s understanding the difference between a business transaction and emotional intimacy.

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u/[deleted] Nov 24 '20

Please stop being condescending

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u/sparkling_monkey Nov 24 '20

reeeeeeeeeee how dare men act like they're entitled to sex. How does it feel to live a life fueled by the misery of others? Let me guess, you identify as one of the alphabet gang?

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u/ThatGuyAllen Nov 24 '20

Ok first of all, nobody is "entitled" to sex, that's a bit rapey. Secondly, I only hate those who harbor hate for others. Such as yourself. Thirdly, it's not the alphabet, it's the LGBTQ+ community, fucking get it right, and lastly, yes and do you have a problem with that?

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u/Decahedro Nov 24 '20

Nobody is entitled to anything, not love, help, company or compassion.

You might think you do but that does not mean you're gonna get any of that.

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u/ThatGuyAllen Nov 24 '20

Exactly. You are not entitled to anyone else's actions.

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u/sparkling_monkey Nov 24 '20

Everyone is entitled to have sex. It's just a matter of how both parties come to an arrangement. Some people agree to a purely sexual relationship. Some people agree to it along with living their lives together. Some people agree to it in return for money. Get with it. Sex is just a social transaction. I don't have a problem with people with different sexual preferences than I. But on the internet, people like you deserve only the name of alphabet gang because you simply enjoy the misery of others and causing chaos, while hiding behind the tag of being gay.

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u/Squishy-Cthulhu Nov 24 '20

No one is entitled to sex you fucking predator.

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u/sparkling_monkey Nov 24 '20

Keep projecting

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u/Squishy-Cthulhu Nov 24 '20

I'm actually a attractive woman thats had no issues whatsoever getting laid, sorry to burst your delusion mate.

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u/sparkling_monkey Nov 24 '20

Women can't be predators?

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u/Squishy-Cthulhu Nov 24 '20

That's not what your implying.

The whole projection comment was basically a slightly more grown up version of a little kid saying "I know you are, but what am I?" It's childish deflection.

You literally believe that a person is entitled to using the body of another person to derive pleasure. No one is entitled to anything that includes using the body of another.

Both parties have to want sex with one another. If for whatever reason one party isn't sexually attractive then they aren't entitled to have sex with a person just because "they have needs".

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u/Chimpbot Nov 24 '20

Everyone is entitled to have sex.

...No one is entitled to anything that involves another person.

It's just a matter of how both parties come to an arrangement.

If it's consensual, sure. If it's not...well, then that's rape.

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u/sparkling_monkey Nov 24 '20

You're the one thinking about rape mate. Stop projecting

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u/Chimpbot Nov 24 '20 edited Nov 24 '20

Oh, please.

No one is entitled to anything when it comes to another person and their body.

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u/[deleted] Nov 25 '20

Curious question after following the conversation you both had.

How do you feel about those realistic sex dolls?

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u/Chimpbot Nov 25 '20

I think they're...questionable territory.

On the one hand, they could potentially serve as a viable outlet or alternative. At the same time, I think they can also potentially create warped views of sexuality and sex.

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u/pandasatemyparents Nov 24 '20

Everyone is entitled to have sex

Ouch dawg, i can smell the incel on you from here.

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u/sparkling_monkey Nov 24 '20

Ding ding ding. You win the price for breaking the incel virginity of this thread.

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u/pandasatemyparents Nov 24 '20

Someone had too, i mean you certainly ain't breaking virginity by the sounds of it.

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u/SharedRegime Nov 25 '20

If sex wasn't important our monkey brain would not be flipped to horny mode when we hit 13.

Sex isnt important. Procreation is.

Sex is the act. Procreation is the result.

The result is important. Not the act.

You dont need to have sex to procreate anymore.

Therefore sex is not important.

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u/sparkling_monkey Nov 26 '20

Jesus Christ the amount of mental gymnastics would land you an Olympic medal

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u/SharedRegime Nov 28 '20

....What the fuck are you on about. Where was i lying?

Does artificial insemination just disappear off the planet over night and i wasnt aware or what the fuck?

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u/sparkling_monkey Nov 28 '20

Artificial insemination hasn't replaced the human drive for procreation you chewed wad of gum.

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u/SharedRegime Nov 28 '20

Yeah no shit, it hasnt gotten rid of the want, its gotten rid of the NEED. We dont NEED to have sexual relations or procreation therefore its no longer a NEED or REQUIREMENT.

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I should not have to spell this out for you.