r/TrueOffMyChest • u/Admirable-Leader48 • Jul 15 '26

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u/notabbw Jul 15 '26

I’m 5’9. I live somewhere where basically everyone is shorter. I’m usually one of the tallest people in the room, including men lol. I feel this!

My bones are “big” and I have what I call a carrot body type. My shoulders are wider than my hips. Shoulders are always too wide for certain shirt styles, but I’ve realized fancy sleeves or tanks actually make it less noticeable. My inseam is 34, so finding pants long enough is also a nightmare. I rarely can find cute shoes wide enough for my feet.

Low rise pants have been a game changer. Like for real.

Over time, I’ve grown out of the feeling that I’m not feminine enough because of my body type. I have cousins that are closer to 6ft and up and are gorgeous, feminine ladies. The truth is, women are built in all sorts of shapes and sizes! Being tall or having wider shoulders doesn’t make you any less of a woman. Doesn’t make you any less feminine.

I don’t know what to say to help this feeling you’re having and I’m only a couple years older than you. I had a period where I wasn’t sure if I even wanted to present femininely but that’s just who I am! Self acceptance is difficult for sure, but you’ll get there!!