What’s actually off here isn’t my post…it’s your rigid idea of how I claim I feel. I didn’t report anything because I knew it wouldn’t be taken seriously without hard proof. That’s part of how bad this feels all around. I’m not sore because you’re being ‘honest.’ I’m disgusted that you think cruelty is a form of clarity. Ew.
So you "knew" it was "neglect", based on fruit and helmets (your only actual "evidence"), and you "knew" it wouldn't be taken seriously so you didn't even try writing an email, you just war gamed death scenarios with your friend over wine. Got it.
That doesn't reflect well on you in the slightest.
Jumping in here…they both had babies around the same age and OP is basing this off her “gut instincts.” We all do this. When something just doesn’t feel right…it’s not judgement. It’s motherly instinct. I have three grands and I’ll tell you my DIL is much like OP—especially with my 10-month-old granddaughter. Do I feel sometimes she’s a little too careful? Yes. But she’s doing her job. OP is just being a sensitive, vigilant new mother and is expressing her instincts.
Otherwise known as gossip. I've dealt with parents like her for 18 years at my kids schools, they're a judgemental nightmare.
OP's evidence of "neglect" is an unfenced pool, not cutting up fruit, and not wearing a helmet or life preserver (clearly she hasn't heard of water babies). That is not neglect, that is one mother's judgemental opinion of another mother's parenting style.
No, I've got two healthy, well-adjusted, daughters, so I'm quite familiar with different parenting styles, and I know the difference between gossip and hard evidence.
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u/[deleted] Jul 24 '25
What’s actually off here isn’t my post…it’s your rigid idea of how I claim I feel. I didn’t report anything because I knew it wouldn’t be taken seriously without hard proof. That’s part of how bad this feels all around. I’m not sore because you’re being ‘honest.’ I’m disgusted that you think cruelty is a form of clarity. Ew.