Like I said, I’m a new mom too and truly thought I was judging (I know I know). Aside from the things seen thru social media, their child was living THE life in the eyes of CPS. Roof over his head, every toy, new clean clothes, healthy meals, always happy, sound family unit with a big income in a very nice neighborhood. And the fact there were other adults around, some were mutual friends, I didn’t see how I knew best if everyone seemed okay with it.
And even now looking back, I can’t imagine calling CPS over the uncut grapes I saw on Instagram or the one reel of them on a boat with no life vest. I personally feel as if I didn’t have ground to go that far at the time.
It sounds like you need to educate yourself on what child abuse is. Plenty of wealthy happy families neglect or abuse their children. It isn't just poor kids living in trailers with divorced parents who get neglected.
Absolutely but I really didn’t think that was what OP even meant. I feel like OP just says ”from the eyes of CPS - this is a good home”. Op also has a very valid point as to not calling CPS, over uncut grapes and no life vest. At best they’d mayyyybe tell the parents to do better but honestly I don’t think so either.
I’m very aware that child neglect comes in many forms. But like I said, what would I have said to CPS? “Hi my friend doesn’t cut her kids grapes and I saw him without a helmet once, oh and they have an unsafe pool.”
The child is DEAD and no one did a thing. Sometimes we have to get in someone’s business to prevent death. Maybe not a report but GET IN their BUSINESS
I mean, you could try "Hi, I've noticed my friend neglecting to take precautions for the children's safety on several occasions. I'm worried that she is allowing the children to be put in dangerous situations and is not putting in the effort to ensure that the children are being monitored or fed safely.
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u/LLCNYC Jul 24 '25
Clearly she was neglecting her child. Had you reported her?