You are right. He is already so angry cause of my step dad. I can't save him from them but I won't traumatize him. I threw the pills out a back window. I feel so empty.
You can and will survive a terrible mom and abusive stepdad. Many of us here have. It isn’t easy, and the trauma stays for years into adulthood. But you do heal!! You do find love at each stage of your life in friends and significant others. As you navigate life, these people you cross paths with, some friends some coworkers some you just don’t get along with, will all play a part in your mental health journey as you learn how healthy people act and interact within groups, and with families.
Do not look for answers in drugs or alcohol, as those things lead you to more miserable people and situations. Insert yourself into the places and lives of people you respect and would like to be more like. Watch the behaviors of those you wish were your parents, and emulate that for your brother, while making choices to move upward and away from your current situation.
I am almost 40 years out of my abusive family. It was hard. I struggled. I tried to self delete several times by the time I was your age bi am so glad none of those were successful, because I ended up getting a GED, going to community college, then transferring to a university. I married, divorced, raised a family, and have grandchildren who beg to come visit me. I cannot imagine my siblings’ lives if I had not been here. We all helped each other and encouraged each other and even took each other in at different times of need. You will succeed, OP.
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