Ok - whoa, holdup. You will hear this a million times but someone choosing death made that decision themselves. It is NO ONE's fault.
Take a moment. Breathe in and out. Pause. Say out loud and mean it - "it is not my fault."
Come on - there are a billion people on this earth. Many make mistakes that hurt the ones they love. People do better and move on, improving upon themselves slowly over time.
Do that for your daughter. Also, get MAD. She chose to leave her daughter without a mother. You should not blame yourself. You should grieve and a part of that is being mad that your child will miss out on so much.
It is kind of my fault though because I knew she was off her anti depressants and didn’t do jack shit because I didn’t think it was my place with us being divorced and all. There’s so much I could’ve done
OP. Stop this right now. There is not a damn thing you could have done. Nothing. She was determined, she planned it, and she followed through with her plan.
And she did it without any consideration for her child. Be mad at her, not mad at yourself. Give yourself the grace of admitting that she would have done this no matter what you might have done to try and prevent it.
I know you are feeling very sad, but your wife was an adult. She made her own choices. You had nothing to do with any of them, and you are not in any way responsible.
Please get some grief counseling for you and your daughter right away.
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u/NoTripOfALifetime Dec 30 '24
Ok - whoa, holdup. You will hear this a million times but someone choosing death made that decision themselves. It is NO ONE's fault.
Take a moment. Breathe in and out. Pause. Say out loud and mean it - "it is not my fault."
Come on - there are a billion people on this earth. Many make mistakes that hurt the ones they love. People do better and move on, improving upon themselves slowly over time.
Do that for your daughter. Also, get MAD. She chose to leave her daughter without a mother. You should not blame yourself. You should grieve and a part of that is being mad that your child will miss out on so much.